Beliefs control our minds.

via Daily Prompt: Believe

When i was a child, i believed in ghosts. Whenever i was alone, i felt someone following me. I had this fear of being chased. Fear of ghosts. It was only because i believed in ghosts.

Now i am a mother. I see my daughter fearing the way i used to. She has fear of monsters and super natural things. And i laugh away.

Fear is an effect of what we believe. If we believe in ghosts, we feel ghosts. If we don’t believe in these things. Nothing can scare us.

Now as a grown up, i believe that nothing can harm me because i seek refuge with God. God is always there to Protect me and help me.

Nothing scares me anymore. I believe in postive things and postivity comes to me.

 

 

When City Housemaids Struggle To Adjust Back Home

Housemaids belong to the less privileged segment of our society. Young girls are sent by their families to work in cities in order to financially support their families. Sometimes they face problems and discrimination in their employer’s house. But those who work for good educated families also reap benefits and are accustomed to the lifestyles of rich households.

Living in an educated household for a considerable amount of time can teach them morals and manners, while also contributing positively towards their grooming. However, at times it becomes hard for these girls to settle in a setting that is different from that of an educated household.

Iqra is a housemaid who went to Lahore for work when she was only 9. She stayed at an educated household for seven years. When she was 16, she got married to her cousin and began to live with him in Multan. She expressed her unfortunate situation by saying that, “We are sharing a house with another big family. We have one washroom. Sometimes I have to wait for my turn for 10 to 15 minutes”. She further stated that, “The waiting time seems like hours to me. I can’t help recalling my neat and clean servant quarter and washroom in Lahore. Sometimes I start weeping and I wish I could go back.”

When one becomes used to facilities, it becomes hard to live without them. Iqra’s life in Lahore was full of facilities. But now she has no TV to watch. As she is fond of movies and serials, she craves for entertainment in her life. But now she knows she can’t go back as her employer has hired a new maid. She knows she has to learn to live without what she has left behind.

Rani, another maid who has been working in Lahore for nearly 8 years, revealed that she went back to her village near Dipaalpur a few months ago after leaving work. She couldn’t stay there more than three months. She added, “Life without facilities becomes difficult. I used to help my mother cook on wood fire but smoke made me cough”. She added, “I missed my life in Lahore; the spacious and neat kitchen and fridge to store food. We have a TV but there is no cable in our village. Village life is boring. People don’t even have basic manners. I then came back to Lahore to work in a new house”.

These young girls who become used to life in the city and live in educated households find it hard to settle back into their village life. They are aware that they don’t belong to cities and don’t have many options and so they have to learn to accept harsh realities of life.

http://blogs.dunyanews.tv/17859/city-housemaids-struggle-adjust-back-home

This article was published by dunya news blog.

Sufi music: A gift for the world.

Sufi music is bringing new generation close to moderate Islam with its beautiful lyrics and hypnotising poetry.
Qawwali has no more an eastern style. New instruments and singers of new generations of Pakistan have taken Qawwali to towering heights. An amalgamation of eastern and western instruments create mesmering melodies. Lyrics full of devotion and love, touch hearts of the people who understand
urdu. Songs such as khaki banda And bulaaya compels  lessoner to ponder over his lifestyle and attitudes. Tajdar e haraam is a masterpiece.   Sufi mystic poetry is portraying true Islam to the new generation. Islam is all about controlling our devilish desires and spreading love. Sufi music is rightfully separating true Islam from monstrous extremism. Our musicians and singers need applause for introducing long lost sufi poetry to new generation of Pakistan (The land of sufis). Sufi music is an asset for the world of  music.

Death: life ends, is this our reality?

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One of my cousins is suffering from last stage of cancer and we are told by doctors to expect his demise any moment.
I can’t help recalling my childhood. When i used to play with him. He was the one who taught me to play badminton in my early childhood. It seems like a vivid dream now.
Is this it?

Life is so short?

How could this be?

Is death the end of everything for us?

We are here for few years and then what next?

These questions bombarding my mind.

Is there a life after death or we are living in illusion?

If illusion? How this illusion is made?

I am an illusion?

Everything around is an illusion?

Every person i ever met is just an illusion?

We don’t exist, we are just illusion?

My mind does’nt accept it.
Religious scriptures of Abrahamic religions (Judaism, Christianity, Islam) talk about life after death. I want to see my dearest cousin after death. I don’t want to believe, that everything ends in a second after death. My mind does’nt accept, that we are nothing.
I know these scriptures were written thousands of years ago. But i want to believe them. I want a life after death. I want my soul to live. I am scared of nothingness. I don’t want to see the end of human existence.
Thus! i believe in God. I want to believe in religious scriptures. I believe in life after death.

Ten steps to become genius.

via Daily Prompt: Genius

Clara entered baker’s coffee shop and ordered coffee. It was friday evening in London. As clara started having her coffee. She took out a book from her handbag and started reading. “TEN STEPS TO BECOME GENIUS”.

“Do you think this will help you to become genius”? She heard a voice close to her.

She turned around to see.
A man in his mid fifties was sitting on a chair.

She replied, “books are written to polish our talents, don’t you think”?

The man with a smile said, “we are all geniuses in one way or another. One has to find his specific talent. Its inborn talent”.

“But we can certainly polish our talents”, clara interrupted.

“No, we can’t polish something that does’nt even exist in us. We can only polish our natural abilities. God has gifted every human with some natural abilities. Books don’t tell us what talents we possess”.
Man replied with a serious look on his face.”

Clara inquired, ” then why are these books written”?

“For making money” he bluntly said. One needs to delve into his mind to find what talents are given to him. Even dumbs are genius in something.

He advised her, ” There are no steps to make you a genius. These books are written to help a little but they don’t make you a genius. You are already a genius. You need to discover it”.

He stood up to leave, shook hand with her.

“I am John Albert. Nice to meet you”. He left the coffee shop.
Clara finished her coffee and closed the book.

Suddently she saw book cover ” TEN STEPS TO BECOME GENIUS” by John Albert.


 

 

Daily Prompt: Obsession of being fashionable

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Fashionable is a term used for someone who follows new trends. When i was in school i wanted to be the most fashionable girl in the entire school. Style and fashion were the only two things that were always on my mind. In those days i could go to any lengths to look stylish. Fast forward few years and i was bored by this whole concept . I discovered that being fashionable is not a compulsion to look awesome and stylish.

In 18th century people started this trend in europe to wear new style clothes to show off their wealth and were called fashionable.  This show off and brag culture has created an artificial world.  people are spending millions and millions to be fashionable and trendy, in world full of poverty and disease. This extravaganza has created a vacuum between the rich and poor that was never visible in history.

The whole world is effected by this term. Everyone wants to look fashionable. Certainly the fashion industry is one of the leading industries of the world and has created millions and millions of jobs. But obsession of being fashionable has created social and economic problems around the world. People spend more than they have on branded clothes and accessories.

We need to understand that one can look stylish and gorgeous without being fashionable. Style is within ourselves. Fashion changes with time. Style does’nt.  Real attraction is not in fashion, its our charisma that possesses attraction.

 

My Talibani wedding.

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My parents arranged my wedding in Pakistan without even consulting me . When i came to my home town from university, i was informed about my engagement. I protested! ” i haven’t even seen or met him. How can you expect me to get married to a person i am not even acquainted with”. My objection was rejected by my father. On contrary he questioned me by saying ! “Don’t you trust me”? I said i do but marrying a stranger is not possible for me. He smiled, and politely said ” he is not a stranger for me. He is my friend’s son. I know him well. Don’t worry, you will get a chance to meet him before wedding”. I said agitatedly “if i don’t like him? Will you cancel the wedding”? He told me to relax and went away leaving me perplexed. I told my mother “i am not going to marry him if i don’t like him”.

In our Pakistani society arranged marriages are a common practice. But i being an educated, liberal and independent woman disliked this tradition.

Before my wedding, i reminded my parents of their promise again and again. But they said he is abroad. I learnt he will be coming only a week before wedding. My parents could’nt understand the dilemma i was going through. One of my friend rightly commented, “is it a talibani wedding? You have’nt even seen him or talked to him”. Her remarks further drowned me in deep sorrow and helplessness. I wished to run away but I loved my parents. I did’ nt want to leave them in an awkward situation. But first time in my life, i felt they are being unfair.

A week before my wedding, i received my fiance’s first phone call. We just introduced ourselves and talked about our hobbies and interests. Before wedding i talked to him on phone only thrice.

On my wedding day i was the most expressionless and gloomy person in the whole gathering. Infact i was scared. Fear of living with a stranger was killing me. As the time passed, my fear grew. When i was alone with my husband, i was scared to hell. The first thing he said to me was ” you can sleep on bed. I will sleep on sofa”. The most relieving sentence i have ever heard. We talked for hours about just everything from his and my college life to professional life. From movies to best travelling destinations on our wedding night.

We went to Austria and France for honeymoon. It was a trip that developed friendship between us. I felt i am travelling with a friend not a husband. We went to vienna and salsburg then went to paris. I told him i have height phobia but i still want to see Paris from top of Eiffel tower. He took me there. While holding me he kept on reminding me to relax, we are here just for few minutes. Enjoy the view and then we will go back.

One night while sitting outside Notre dame in Paris, he told me about his feelings before wedding. How he was forced into this marriage by his parents. Then he told me, the day we first time talked on phone, he noticed my perplexity and helplessness. That day he understood that i too am going through a terrible situation. He told me, he figured out my fear on wedding day.” Then he asked me, ” do you like me”? For a moment i was stunned. Then i spoke my heart out by replying, ” if i would have chosen my husband myself, i would have chosen a handsome, educated and liberal man but he might not have been a gentleman like you. You possess all the three qualities.  And you have a plus point, now you are also a friend to me. So now i have a friend in my husband”.

Four years fast forward my husband is my best friend. I can’t thank my dad enough. We travel, we dine, we play games, we argue, we gossip, we share everything with each other. He is the best thing ever happened to me.

Insensitivity in medical profession can lead to Hopelessness

Generally it is observed, that our society has become insensitive about other’s emotions and needs. Witnessing lack of empathy in educated circle is distressing. Insensitivity about human emotions in society leads to lack of empathy in medical profession as well. It is an ethical immorality.
A qualified professional doctor’s responsibility is not only to cure patients but also console them in the painful phase of their lives.

Today it is observed, that doctors have become heartless and compassionless to such an extent, that sometimes their insensitive words hurt the patient emotionally so much so that the patient losses hope of recovery.

Below are few painful experiences of patients.

Fatima, a 29 year female from Islamabad told me, that after six months of her marriage. On her mother in law’s wish, she went to Islamabad’s famous hospital for gynae. Tests were done and she was bluntly told by a female doctor, that “you are 22 but your biological age is above 40. Soon you will be reaching menupause stage. Your FSH is high. You have premature ovarian failure. You can’t have babies”. Then on her request she met the renowned male obstetrician, who further demoralised her by saying ” someday your maid will tell you, that she has seen a dream of you having a baby, No that’s not possible. You are an old woman from inside” While recalling that bitter experience she kissed her two year old son and thanked Almighty. Today she is mother of a 4 year old girl and 2 year old boy.

Sidra, another lady from Lahore told me, that her husband is suffering from cancer of fourth stage. Oncologist told her that there is no cure or treatment for this. As she was too distressed and hurt, a female duty doctor very insensitively said, “There is no hope for him. He can go today, tomorrow or day after tomorrow”. Sidra held chair to prevent herself from fall as she staggered.

It is observed, in government hospitals patients are treated even worst. They are not only emotionally tortured but also denied treatment in some cases.

On August 2, A 50-year-old woman died at the Services Hospital. when activists of the Young Doctors Associa­tion (YDA) denied her treatment at its emergency ward due to a strike for the acceptance of their demands.

The field of medicine is without doubt considered a moral profession. The medical profession is more than each doctor treating his or her respective patients.  The moral nature of the medical profession can actually be seen as completely necessary for ethical function of our society.
‎showing empathy to the patients can actually decrease the stress and sufferings. Doctors who take the time to listen and understand what their patients are going through could actually have a positive effect on their patients pain tolerance and stress levels, as a new study suggests.

It’s a resposibilty of a doctor, to be honest with patient and his family but doctors should use their words carefully, and show empathy. Words can heal a patient or kill hope in him. Words can make the days left in life, easier or painful. Words can console a dying soul. Choosing right words at right time is an art. And every person from medical profession needs to master it.

10 steps to have glowing Skin this winter

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Winter can be harsh on your skin. We’re constantly inside with heaters, which cause dryness and dehydration, and the time spent outside can result in face damage from the nature’s elements, like wind and extreme cold. Here are some tips to keep your skin beautiful this winter:

1. WASH IN LUKEWARM WATER

Hot showers and baths always feel good in the winter, but when you can, particularly when just washing your face or hands, choose lukewarm water to avoid stripping.

2. MOISTURIZE IMMEDIATELY AFTERWARDS

Your skin not only needs more moisture, but moisture right after you wash. Applying moisture to damp skin helps seal that dampness into the skin.

3. CHOOSE MOISTURIZER CAREFULLY

Some over-the-counter moisturizers have petroleum-based ingredients that can actually further dry your skin in the winter months. Be sure to choose a smart formula that has natural, nourishing ingredients. Go for an oil-based rather than a water-based solution, as it’s more likely to help your skin retain moisture in the winter.

4. HUMIDIFY

Heating systems dry out the air, so consider installing a humidifier in your home, particularly in your bedroom, to put moisture back into the air and help prevent your skin from drying out.

5. DRINK

We tend to drink less water in the winter because we turn to hot drinks like cocoa and tea, but don’t forget that your skin needs hydration from the inside, out. A little warm water with lemon can be very refreshing and hydrating at the same time.

6. OVERNIGHT MOISTURIZE

Cold wind and heaters indoors can make skin dry and cracked. Applying a moisturiser or oil based night cream is essential in extreme cold.

7. EXFOLIATE

We often forget to help the skin slough off dead cells in the winter, particularly on our hands. Yet moisture can’t get in if the dead cells are too plentiful. Find an exfoliating mask and use it on your face and your hands, as well as gently on your lips, then follow immediately with moisture to truly see a smoother difference. Exfoliating body washes are also helpful in the winter months.

8. MOSTURIZE YOUR HANDS REGULARALY.

We tend to focus on our faces while neglecting our hands. In the last few years, however, we’ve begun to realize that our hands can quickly betray our age faster. It’s time to extend your skin care routine to your hands—which are the first to suffer in rough, winter weather. We wash them more often to avoid getting sick, and we expose them to the elements all without giving them any extra care. This is a sure recipe for dry, cracked, and old-looking hands.

Carry a good, quality hand cream with you. Put it on after each washing. This is critical if you want soft, smooth, and young-looking hands.

9. MAINTAIN YOUR FEET.

Once we stop wearing sandals, a lot of us forget about our feet. This is a bad idea in winter. Feet along with hands are often the first part of the body to feel the cold. You know that the second something’s wrong with your feet, your whole body can feel off. Besides, the longer you neglect them, the harder it will be to get them in shape next spring.

Consider not only maintaining your foot care, but stepping it up. A warm footbath can wash away all your stress in the winter, and if you add some deep moisturizer and self-massage afterwards, you’ll feel like a new person.

10. PROTECT YOUR LIPS.
When we go out in the cold, we take steps to cover the rest of our body, but our lips usually are exposed. Lips are a special type of skin that is thin and delicate and so requires a little extra care. Once you put saliva on the lips, it dries out and makes our lips even more dry. To avoid it don’t lick your lips. Use a lip balm to moisture and help to heal cracks and splits in the skin. Avoid brushing or rubbing your lips when they are flaky or peeling.

 

 

 

 

 

Autumn, it’s effects on human body.

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The autumn season marks a season of change in the world around us. The leaves change color, the days get shorter.
The cold weather creeping in brings changes in sunlight, lower temperatures, and sometimes a slight change in lifestyle. All of these changes could potentially have some tangible effects on your body and mind, no matter how healthy your body is.

Everything in our bodies, from our sleep patterns to hormonal balance to mood swings, can be affected by autumn’s shorter days and longer nights. That can have some strange effects on us, like making us getting lower quality sleep and making us more susceptible to anxiety or depression.

Humidity levels tend to drop off in the autumn and winter months. The drier the air, the more moisture it sucks from your skin, so you’re more likely to experience dryness and flakiness during the colder months of the year, especially if you’re prone to eczema or other dry skin conditions.

 

To help you prepare for the upcoming season, ask yourself the following questions:

Do you find yourself sleeping more?

Are you struggling to get out of bed?

‎Is it harder or easier to exercise now?

‎Do you feel less patient?

‎Are you easily annoyed or irritated?

‎Do you feel more energized and productive?

 

Answering these questions could give you some insight about how the change in season may or may not be affecting you.

Following two ways are effective to overcome seasonal effects on our bodies.

Exercise, your body on a regular basis has far-reaching, positive effects on your physical and emotional health.

Get more sunlight.

Getting exposed to sunlight has great benefits, physically and emotionally. Our bodies absorb vitamin D, important to our health, from sunlight. And the energy and emotional boost that we get from a few minutes in the sun can be exceptional.

No matter which season it is, your body can be affected, either physically or mentally, but as long as we all are knowledgeable about the affects and know how to combat them, we can truly enjoy our springs, summers, autumns and winters.

 

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